Best Words To Use In Your Dating Profile?

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ARE you a quiet, energetic, and respectful kind of guy? How about a spiritual and romantic girl? Well according to eHarmony, chances are that’s why you’re not getting a date!

Data from more than 12,000 Australian online dating members of eHarmony have identified the words that are most likely to attract AND detract attention from potential suitors.

What is clear from eHarmony's research is that “carefully selecting descriptors on your profile page substantially impacts the number of approaches you attract”.  By tweaking the words you choose in your profile might just be the winning edge over your competitors.  From a female perspective, physically fit, optimistic and passionate are qualities that are sought after whereas from a male perspective, sweet, funny and ambitious are the descriptors that might be the difference between you and the next eDater in waiting.

What is clear is that modern day daters are bored by the standard responses and are craving a little more imagination.  I'm sure like me, you have sat nervously in an interview and when asked “…. Now, please tell us a little about yourself....”  without really thinking, we launch into a list of the tried-and-tested; kind, respectful and dependable ….  This is what a potential employer wants to hear isn’t it? Surely it isn’t a bad thing to be caring and modest?   If like me, you have been automatically rolling out these descriptors, since Year Nine RE, it might be a shock to hear that such words aren’t exactly roping in potential partners when it comes to the world of online dating.    

But before you rush off and throw in a smorgasbord of adjectives into your profile like “happy, spontaneous and outgoing”, the real magic comes from knowing how to bring these words to life. Otherwise your profile could end up being filled to the brim with cliches and worse you could risk coming off as trying too hard and unauthentic. Being real to you, quirks and all, you are more likely to attract a partner you will be most compatible with. Of course, your profile should be written in a way to sound interesting and standout, however there is a fine line between creative writing to fabricating the truth… 

Need Help Writing Your Profile?

Read our recent blog How to Write your Online Dating Profile for more information on writing your profile. Even after googling everything you need to know about the writing your profile,  it can still be hard to write about yourself. Should you be funny? Charming? Intellectual? Does it reflect who you really are and what you want in a partner, or does it read like a cheesy personals from the 80's? Should you be completely honest or try to position yourself so you sound a little better? 

At eDateMate we offer personal consultation, headline, username and profile development and photo suggestions to capture the essence of YOU. The one-stop-shop for your online dating ventures. It's our job to make you standout from the crowd and attract your ideal match. Whether your new to online dating or haven't had much luck,  checkout our packages on offer.

Read More At:

"The Best and Worst Words To Use In Your Online Dating Profile"  Business Insider Australia, June 2014
"eHarmony The Best Words To Use In Your Online Dating Profile" Herald Sun, June 2014

Best words to use according to eHarmony.  Image Source:  Business Insider, Australia

Best words to use according to eHarmony.  Image Source: Business Insider, Australia

Words to avoid according to eHarmony. Image Source:  Business Insider Australia 

Words to avoid according to eHarmony. Image Source: Business Insider Australia 

How (Not!) To Write Your Online Dating Profile

You've only got seconds to make a first impression and nailing your profile is essential for successful online dating. Here we provide tips and advice how to create a standout profile and examples of common profile mistakes and how you can avoid them. 

Online dating profile example - what (not) to write on your online dating profile on  free and paid Australia dating sites. Online dating advice, online dating tips, online dating strategies.   eDateMate Australia.

Profile Photo

Pictures are part of your first impression; so don’t give your matches a reason to pass you over. This girl's primary photo (which  appears in your matches search results) is  taken too far away and it doesn't 'pop' from the screen with her choice of clothing and colouring. She has missed a crucial opportunity to show off her best assets. 

Username

Why work so hard on your profile, only to become an unoriginal Rach1979?  Get creative with a name that evokes positive association, is unique and easy to remember.

Headline

You may be a “happy gal” but don’t waste valuable profile space on a boring headline. Your headline is one extra opportunity to let your personality shine and attract the attention of a potential match. 

Write-up

Whilst this profile projects positivity, it is filled to the brim with generic adjectives such as outgoing, funny and adventurous.  Avoid overused phrases clichés and inject your personality and sense of style into your profile write-up. For example, get specific about the type of travelling you do. People act on a dating profile when they can see themselves as part of your story. 

Avoid negative statements (and in capitals LIKE YOU ARE YELLING) such as “guys game players need not apply” will scream bitter ex whose not over their past relationships and full of unwanted baggage.

Lastly you should do a spell check on your profile! There are spelling mistakes and short-hand abbreviations in this profile which only detract from the message. People will see the mistake, rather than what you have written. 

Need Help Writing Your Profile?

Even after googling everything you need to know about the most 'desirable' profile, it can still be hard to write about yourself. Should you be funny? Charming? Intellectual? Does it reflect who you really are and what you want in a partner, or does it read like a cheesy personal from the 80's? Should you be completely honest or try to position yourself so you sound a little better?  Well let us do the hard work for you…

Our job is to market your number one product - YOU! 

At eDateMate we offer a personalised online dating profile writing service. We will write your profile from scratch or critique your existing profile with tangible advice for improvement. We will help you select your very best profile photos and create a catchy headline and username to hook your matches interest.  A one-stop-shop for your online dating ventures.  It's our job to make you standout from the crowd and attract your ideal match. Whether you're new to online dating or haven't had much luck,  we have packages to suit all your needs. 

Australian Dating Sites - Free or Paid?

Australian Dating Sites - Free or Paid? H ow to choose your online dating site. Free online dating advice, online dating tips, online dating strategies. eDateMate Australia

It is possible to attract dates no matter which site you decide to join, however a dating site is only as good as your matches on it. Whether you're wanting a serious relationship or something more casual, knowing which dating site is right for you comes down to knowing what experience you are after. Let me explain...

Some sites are free (e.g. OasisActive), some are paid subscription (e.g. eHarmony) and others are somewhere in between (e.g. RSVP).  Generally speaking sites that cost money attract singles who are more serious about dating (they have paid for a subscription after all), however higher joining fees doesn't necessarily mean better quality of matches. 


What Do I Need To Know?

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Try a free site and a paid site

Each experience is going to be different - it's kind of like being in two different bars at the same time. 

Limit yourself to a few sites at any one time

This will allow you to focus your time and energy on those select sites, rather than juggling too many sites and matches at any one time. 

Do your homework

As annoying as it can be, read the small print to avoid getting caught out with hidden terms and conditions.

Try before you buy

Try the dating site for a month or so before committing yourself to a long-term paid subscription (usually 3 to 12 months). 

Opt out of 'auto renew' subscriptions

A common complaint of one particular dating site, make sure you opt-out of the 'auto renew' subscription to avoid being inadvertently charged for a dating site you no longer use. Unless you die or can produce a medical certificate of "incapacity to online date", it is virtually impossible to obtain a refund!

 


Independence or Matchmaker?

There are two main site strategies; those that give you independence (e.g. RSVP) and those that play matchmaker (e.g. eHarmony). There are pros and cons to both approaches and everyone has different experiences - good and bad. If for example, you like the idea of a 'compatibility matching system' delivering select matches to your inbox, you might prefer this targeted strategy. You may however prefer to be the master of your own destiny where you can view all members and be only restricted by your own search parameters. View my recent blog about eHarmony vs RSVP for a more detailed review.

What Are The Popular Australian Dating Sites? 

Online dating has well and truly hit the main stream with over half of Australian singles having tried or would consider it a viable matchmaking option. RSVP, Australia’s largest singles site, has over two million members with 1,200 new members joining every day. eHarmony, Australia’s second largest site has over one million members and they attribute almost 11,000 marriages to an eHarmony match. Other popular sites includes OasisActive, OKCupid, Plenty of Fish and Tinder.  You can also read a review of the popular sites by Choice, a leading Australian consumer advocacy group. 

Whatever site you choose,  keep in mind the popular sites will have a larger pool of members to choose from. The list of dating sites in Australia is ever growing, but we have a long way to go compared to overseas. In the US alone there are a staggering 1500 dating sites! So many choices...too many choices? There are niche markets that focus on interests or attributes such as ethnicity, religion or hobbies. There is something for everyone, including a site just for 'gluten free singles'!

What about Tinder?

Tinder is a modern day 'Hot' or 'Not'. It is a free app, links to your Facebook profile and suggests matches based on your location.  It’s basically the straight version of Grindr.  You swipe through a smorgasbord of faces and click ‘like’ or 'pass' and if someone likes you back you start chatting. Tinder is instant and doesn't take much work compared to other dating sites.  Decisions are based purely on looks compared to conventional dating sites which require well thought out messages and profiles to accurately portray their best selves. Read more at "tinderized: what really happens on tinder dates"  

The Bottom Line:

Each site has its own pros and cons which are important to weigh up and consider.   There is no doubt, however, that on any dating site an individuals profile is the most important first step in attracting the right kind of matches.  

Need Help Writing Your Profile?

At eDateMate we offer personal consultation, headline, username and profile development and photo critique and suggestions to capture the essence of YOU. The one-stop-shop for your online dating ventures. It's our job to make you standout from the crowd and attract your ideal match. Find out more about our packages and online dating coaching here.

Why Online Dating is like looking for your Dream Job

Online dating is no different to looking for your dream job and here's why...

Online dating is no different to looking for your dream job. Modern day dating must include a proactive approach and old dating rules tossed out the window.  eDateMate Australia.

Both represent you to a world full of strangers who will decide on whether to call you in for an interview - your first date.  

Your CV (profile) will make or break your chances. Profiles consist of a series of photos and a description about you.

During your JOB SEARCH (online dating search) you will checkout multiple job vacancies (profiles) to see if there is a fit for your character and skill.

Your COVER LETTER (first email message) is a teaser that lets someone know you’re serious about getting the job.

If you catch the attention of a COMPANY (potential match) they will go on to read your CV (profile).

Your INTERVIEW (first date) is used by both sides to decide whether it’s worth starting a working (personal) relationship with each other

Why Would I Pay For A Professional Service to Help Me?

Nailing your profile is essential. Think of it this way. If two people applied for the same job, and one person has a resume filled with experience, detailing the many reasons they'd be right for the job, and another person has a resume which reads unoriginal and looks like it was written in five minutes, who do you think will get noticed?  Of course, you wouldn't even get in the door with a poorly presented resume.

You can write the profile yourself or use our personalised service to write it for you, but the important thing is you give it the attention it deserves.   

If falling in love is as important to you as finding your ideal job, it's only logical to take the time to make dating profile the best it can be. And if you play to win you'll be one click closer to finding your ideal match.