ARE you a quiet, energetic, and respectful kind of guy? How about a spiritual and romantic girl? Well according to eHarmony, chances are that’s why you’re not getting a date!
Data from more than 12,000 Australian online dating members of eHarmony have identified the words that are most likely to attract AND detract attention from potential suitors.
What is clear from eHarmony's research is that “carefully selecting descriptors on your profile page substantially impacts the number of approaches you attract”. By tweaking the words you choose in your profile might just be the winning edge over your competitors. From a female perspective, physically fit, optimistic and passionate are qualities that are sought after whereas from a male perspective, sweet, funny and ambitious are the descriptors that might be the difference between you and the next eDater in waiting.
What is clear is that modern day daters are bored by the standard responses and are craving a little more imagination. I'm sure like me, you have sat nervously in an interview and when asked “…. Now, please tell us a little about yourself....” without really thinking, we launch into a list of the tried-and-tested; kind, respectful and dependable …. This is what a potential employer wants to hear isn’t it? Surely it isn’t a bad thing to be caring and modest? If like me, you have been automatically rolling out these descriptors, since Year Nine RE, it might be a shock to hear that such words aren’t exactly roping in potential partners when it comes to the world of online dating.
But before you rush off and throw in a smorgasbord of adjectives into your profile like “happy, spontaneous and outgoing”, the real magic comes from knowing how to bring these words to life. Otherwise your profile could end up being filled to the brim with cliches and worse you could risk coming off as trying too hard and unauthentic. Being real to you, quirks and all, you are more likely to attract a partner you will be most compatible with. Of course, your profile should be written in a way to sound interesting and standout, however there is a fine line between creative writing to fabricating the truth…
Need Help Writing Your Profile?
Read our recent blog How to Write your Online Dating Profile for more information on writing your profile. Even after googling everything you need to know about the writing your profile, it can still be hard to write about yourself. Should you be funny? Charming? Intellectual? Does it reflect who you really are and what you want in a partner, or does it read like a cheesy personals from the 80's? Should you be completely honest or try to position yourself so you sound a little better?
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Read More At:
"The Best and Worst Words To Use In Your Online Dating Profile" Business Insider Australia, June 2014
"eHarmony The Best Words To Use In Your Online Dating Profile" Herald Sun, June 2014